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July 17, 2010

My (other) girls


I had an evening pass from the asylum... I mean, home... last night so used it to spend some time with a group of girlfriends I haven't seen in way too long. I didn't think I was really missing my social life since A came onto the scene. Truth be told, I'd rather spend my free time in my PJs in front of the TV. But last night, over Indian take-out and a glass or two of wine, I realized that I was wrong: I have been missing it. Desperately. 

Girls have a reputation for being real bitches to one another. Competitive, insecure, snarky. But I am lucky enough to have only girls of the best sort in my life: Generous and smart and funny, and confident enough to say (out loud!), "Sometimes I hate this" and "What if I'm doing everything wrong?"

I think part of it stems from the fact that we're not girls anymore. I am starting to see that it might be true, what so many people say (hello, Oprah!): Life gets better as you go. Love, marriage, divorce, careers, pregnancies, babies. Happiness and sadness, the depths of each. Successes and failures. The things you question and the things you know to be true. This is the stuff of life. And maybe it's found in the highs and the lows even more than the smooth, flat stretches in between. 

What I wish for my girls is what I've been fortunate enough to find for myself: Someone to love who loves them right back, and a good group of friends with whom to share the ups and downs along the way.

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